Small child

Oh, two kittens ... or how to teach a child to fall asleep on their own


There are parents who don't mind sleeping together. They decide on it, believing that thanks to this solution they build a bond with the child. Some just like sleeping together.

And what about parents whose child is no longer the "desired" guest in the bedroom? No, they didn't stop loving her, they didn't stop hugging, it just couldn't keep going like that.

Heel in the eye, even the most beloved under the sun, causes pain. A one-year-old child who, taking up the middle of the bed, disguises his position across the bed, is not the best sleep companion for someone planning to sleep.

Although there is no mother in the world whose closeness to the toddler is not pleasant, some opt for "night separation". Of course, there are also those that accustom the child from the beginning to sleep in a separate cot. Here the matter is easier. And what about those who after more than a year lull, rock, awake to sleep? Is it possible to painlessly wean the child away from this type of falling asleep?

What do specialists say?

There is probably no parent who has not familiarized himself with the main (possibly the most fashionable) educational methods. Virtually every trend introduces its method of learning to fall asleep. Let's look at the most popular.

So we have Elizabeth Pantley and her No Cry Night

The author recommends finding a way that suits your child best. It can be rocking, carrying a pram or falling asleep with your child. In other words, that's exactly what most parents do. And that's exactly what (as we said in the title) we want to end. We want to make our child fall asleep on his own bed. Any transfer of the child when he falls asleep, lying next to the cot (yes, there are parents nomadic under the child's cot, because only then the toddler sleeps peacefully), swaying in the arms makes the toddler return to our bed like a boomerang, and awake at night can not sleep alone . Therefore, we leave the Pantley method for parents of newborns and young infants. Our yearling is finally going to sleep at home. We keep looking.

Family bed, or the Sears method

Closeness, tenderness, sleeping together. The easiest and the most difficult method at the same time. You don't have to teach the baby how to fall asleep next to his parents, because it comes naturally. Closeness gives a sense of security. If all family members agree to such a solution - it is good. It's just that this method excludes what we assumed to do. So we leave it for parents who are not disturbed by the said heel in the eye or for those whose children sleep peacefully, like angels from commercials.

Easy Tracy Hogg plan

Not so easy at all. Requires good organization. For disciplined and structured parents. The method requires observing the toddler and recording all subtle changes in behavior. After a few days of our notes, behavioral patterns emerge. We can determine when a child is tired, when hungry, etc. With this knowledge, we can easily plan child's naps and sleep. It works best from the very beginning. The year-old who has slept with us until now does not hide when he is tired and sleepy, so getting to such knowledge through the help of records will not help us regain the bed just for myself. The effectiveness of an easy plan can be testified by the opinions of millions of readers around the world, but the key moment when we start using it.

Method 3-5-7, i.e. a method of controlled crying

Annette Kast-Zahn suggests that we let the child cry. After performing all the rituals preceding the dream, we tell the child "good night" and leave the room. Is the toddler crying? We enter it after about three minutes. We do not make eye contact. We calm down, stroke and leave. Is the child screaming again? This time we let him cry five minutes before we enter the room again for a moment. The third time we wait seven minutes. Method for "tough guy".

Can you stand your child's seven minutes of loud crying and crying without reaction? Will you be able to "not make eye contact" with the toddler who is looking for him? If so, this is the method for you. Importantly, it brings quick results.