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The rebellion of a five-year-old, or when it finally ends ...

The rebellion of a five-year-old, or when it finally ends ...



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It would seem that as a parent of a five-year-old, you are already in battle. You may even have the impression that nothing will surprise you. After all, you have already experienced quite a lot, you know your preschooler well and you know what to expect from him. You can have a two-year-old, four-year-old rebellion freshly remembered, difficult beginnings in kindergarten, or trouble leaving your child for the night with your grandmother ... So, as a parent, you are sure that you can handle everything.

Meanwhile, quite unexpectedly, it appears - five-year rebellion, which rarely takes the open form typical of expressive two-year-olds (only sometimes there are - spasms, sobbing, crying forcing), usually resistance is more cunning - it makes itself felt in the form fochs, quiet hours, whiningand even resorting to feign disease, blackmail, attempted negotiations

The five-year-old already has quite a lot of tools up his sleeve. And he willingly reaches for them, because they work! Every day, he controls emotions quite well, but sometimes the inner world overwhelms him ... and for the environment an explosion that allows him to regain balance can be really difficult.

Sophisticated forms of rebellion by a five-year-old

A five-year-old rarely goes into a frenzy, throws himself to the ground (unless the reaction of the environment has taught him that it pays off). The rebellion of a five-year-old looks quite different ...

The child usually resorts to other ways - he will pretend that he can't hear or maximally prolongs his reaction over time - doing it very, very slowly.

In the age of five, children are experts in slow performing a certain activity. They can eat dinner for an hour only so that the parent finally gives up and serves the dessert. In the meantime, your toddler may even have a stomach ache, the leg will be nightmarish, persistent fatigue, yawning and much more will appear. The smarter the child, the more convincing he will be.

  • What to do if the child does not want to dress in the morning?
  • eating a sandwich forever?
  • pretends not to hear when you call for dinner?

There is no better way to revolt a five-year-old than behavior peace. I know it's easy to write. Then show understanding - "you probably would like to sleep more", "I know that getting up can be difficult ... I have it sometimes too", try to find out the cause of the problem - maybe the child is reluctant to go to kindergarten, because in the facility he expects problems? Talking at this stage can really explain a lot.

Discipline positively

A five-year-old child usually knows when he is acting badly. It feels terrible when it hurts loved ones, which is why excessive discipline in those moments when the toddler is lost will most likely not be effective. Strengthening positive behavior is a better solution. Give your toddler attention when he's "good", play calmly, praise when he has done something good. Don't spare good words and always say what you see. Try to praise the behavior, talk about the facts.

  • as part of discipline, replace "no" with "yes". Instead of saying "don't play football at home," say, "why not take the ball outside?"
  • avoid difficult unnecessary situations - a five-year-old has a new toy that he doesn't want to share? Arrange to hide her during her cousin's visit.
  • respect your child's age and restrictions. Check if your child knows what you mean, often rebellion is born out of misunderstanding the situation.

A five-year rebellion? Code of Anger

It is important to show your child at this stage that all emotions are in order. Also anger disliked by many parents. The key to feeling good is learning how to express it.

If a toddler in a fit of fury, becomes aggressive, it is worth writing a code of anger with a five-year-old. It's good to start with the fact that everyone has the right to feel angry. The next two points should be more like this - When I'm angry, I can't ... and here: to beat sisters, kick mom and dad, throw a chair, etc. Another point: "When I'm angry, I can draw what I feel / crumple old newspaper / stamp your feet, etc. Let the child sign the code, decorate it, hang it in a visible place to remind a five-year-old of a secret contract. Thanks to this, the five-year rebellion may be smaller ...

Five-year rebellion - when will it end?

Belief in the fact that we will live to see the day when the child stops rebelling is naive, although it must be admitted that it is very comforting ... At every stage one should expect resistance that is healthy and natural. One period of rebellion is easier for parents, another more difficult. Everyone requires flexibility and seeking new ways that will start working.

A five-year rebellion is another level of initiation for parents. Fortunately, previous experiences allow us to prepare for it and make difficult time ... more tolerable. Good luck!

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